tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post2390229903056317188..comments2023-10-31T05:23:38.176-04:00Comments on The Book of Jackson: Morning Mail – 10.01.10Dr. Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04539594257560675395noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-9677836068298453472010-10-04T12:07:30.912-04:002010-10-04T12:07:30.912-04:00...and "Adonis" is a fool...I'm glad......and "Adonis" is a fool...I'm glad you did address him. There are appropriate and inappropriate ways to argue and he was most certainly out of line. But I will admit when I read his first line, I was cosigning like crazy. It's SO hard to believe that NO ONE that comments on that site has ever side eyed a Latina or shoot even just a light skinned sister with ambiguous race that was with some fine brother. Not even witnessed it happen?<br /><br />*shrug* The world's race problem won't be solved on one blog site, but it was a bit disheartening to me that the intelligent brothers and sisters that frequent sbm couldn't even have an open, frank discussion about it without the ignorance flying (that side convo about college degrees...are you serious!?! *smh* Slim killed me calling him Wacka Flacka though lol).<br /><br />However, this lil micro-discussion has given me some peace.Scarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10733519420397400298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-52844111582842287602010-10-04T09:29:08.927-04:002010-10-04T09:29:08.927-04:00Thanks for the comment Scarlett & yes Sane the...Thanks for the comment Scarlett & yes Sane the Flyy One and So Flyy are one in the same :) <br /><br />I am reading your comment thoroughly but I do want to state that I never stated that the race relations Dr. J spoke about don't happen. I wouldn't do that, especially from my limited knowledge on race relations. In the town where I grew up you were either black or white. So Latina-Black relations are relatively new (6 yrs) to me. I knew that I personally didn't have anything insightful to add to the post, so I personally just decided to read the comments to see what unfolded. As a matter of a fact, I didn't even have comment for Dr. J on the original blog until the nincompoop came out calling all the other black women liars. & not that I agreed or disagreed with what they posted, I just felt I needed to take a stance. I didn't appreciate him throwing insults like he knew them personally. A person's word is their bond until proven otherwise. <br /><br />The reason for my questions here were because had I have posted, I probably would have said something to the effect of 'Yea... I've never experienced that.' So not saying that it doesn't happen, just apparently not where I'm present. So then my post here is centered around that foundation... what should have been said?Flyyest Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04058292476747519595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-12363835098755868942010-10-01T17:43:06.763-04:002010-10-01T17:43:06.763-04:00@Sane - I assume (perhaps incorrectly)that "T...@Sane - I assume (perhaps incorrectly)that "The Flyy One" and "So Flyy" are one in the same. She commented above.<br /><br />This -->"my issue is that it didn't seem any different than what the black women were accused of doing in the post." is frustrating...I hear you there, trust I understand that one completely. "White people" are often characterized as the debil...I just take solace knowing that it's not me that is being discussed and soak in the message. Sometimes it gets tiresome qualifying everything, but in a broad medium like blogging I understand the need for it.Scarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10733519420397400298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-83129107524704554992010-10-01T16:55:10.666-04:002010-10-01T16:55:10.666-04:00@Scarlett, color me confused, but I think this is ...@Scarlett, color me confused, but I think this is in response to me since So Flyy hasn't commented on here. I understand why generalizations are sometimes necessary, my issue is that it didn't seem any different than what the black women were accused of doing in the post. It also doesn't help that I don't know any women like this, so the generalizations didn't seem necessary. I'm not saying they are not out there, but I don't think the percentage is large enough to paint black women in general in this light.<br /><br />Luckily, I loves Dr. J, and didn't reallllly take it that he meant all black women. It just would have been nice to see a few more "some black women" in there.SaneN85https://www.blogger.com/profile/04147382300690713475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-56105355040212798202010-10-01T16:08:40.354-04:002010-10-01T16:08:40.354-04:00Please know that this is being said in the interes...Please know that this is being said in the interest of open communication and not with anger or any ill will. I finally chose to comment on SBM and 3Ways after reading for nearly a year because I *DO* like and value the commenters that frequent there (including you So Flyy). I could've continued to read the posts in silence and went about my day, but your funny and thought provoking convos add a whole 'nother dimension. With that being said...<br /><br />They probably wanted to hear "That sucks, sorry to hear that" or "Here's how I deal with misconceptions...". Certainly not "I don't do that and no one I know does that, it must not happen." Sound a lot like you're calling them liars or at the very least belittling their feelings. Just because something doesn't happen in YOUR world, doesn't mean that it never happens (sound like White Privilege much?).<br /><br />One of the big problems with race talk is that we have to speak in generalizations, if we discussed everything on a person to person basis, we'd never get through everyone. So MANY times things that are said about Black people, white women, Latino men, whatever are not going to apply to the people in the conversation, particularly if it's a progressive conversation. But the generalizations are necessary, especially because that was the issue at hand. Black women that mean mug Latinas when they're with Black men. If you're not one of those women, great! You're ahead of the game...your contribution could be stating WHY you have no problem with it or something to that effect...not saying that it just never happens. <br /><br />And while I'm being brave...saying that you love Latinas or Big Girls or Black women doesn't = I hate all others. I'd love if we'd all accept that "I love Black women" shouldn't be countered with "oh, HERE come the 'I hate white women' talk!!" or some variation of that...<br /><br />For real So Flyy, I dig you. I won't always agree with you, but from what I know of you you're good people and I hope you take this in the light that it was intended...if you can read the whole thing! lol Dang sorry for the diatribe...guess I had to say what I could while I still was feeling it...Scarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10733519420397400298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-20686156228992264642010-10-01T15:57:21.961-04:002010-10-01T15:57:21.961-04:00I enjoyed the post as an Ode to Hispanic America M...I enjoyed the post as an Ode to Hispanic America Month. I love my Mexican Friends (I am from Texas so I am being rather specific in nationality) I am rather unsure of why people felts that the post were not sincere (unless they know them in real life). Not all black women are on this Black men are leaving us for other nationalities tip, as if the sky is falling. It seems to be the train of thought of simple people. Kinda like asking someone to articulate the mind of a serial killer and you aren't one. I enjoy your point of view even though I may not always agree. As someone who has only posted a few times, I do say that the environment is not newbie friendly. <br />I really thought you were posting off the top of your head (I do mean this as a compliment), and I am impressed on the amount of preparation you take on your post.<br /><br />PS Thanks for this link to your blog that I got from the FB fansite (great job!!)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00541124408597627824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-38585973746450627062010-10-01T14:51:16.567-04:002010-10-01T14:51:16.567-04:00I appreciate your post/response although I feel li...I appreciate your post/response although I feel like you said what you had to say already and there is no real need to justify. <br /><br />But I do have a question, to the women who said "Those women are lying, they are full of shit." What exactly did they want to hear? I am just not sure that I get it. I understand the whole concept of if you ignore it doesn't go away and just b/c it doesn't exist in your reality doesn't mean it doesn't exist but what exactly is one to say if it isn't a part of them or their exchanges?Flyyest Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04058292476747519595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-43064063839437533472010-10-01T14:48:39.026-04:002010-10-01T14:48:39.026-04:00Now you can't shut me up! lol Your fellow SB...Now you can't shut me up! lol Your fellow SBM commenter partially have you to thank for that ;-)Scarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10733519420397400298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-3763023150876790052010-10-01T14:47:09.858-04:002010-10-01T14:47:09.858-04:00But your welcoming DOES help "...that's o...But your welcoming DOES help "...that's one of the things I love most about SBM, the heated intelligent conversation in the comments and the (usually) safe environment in which to have differing opinions amongst peers." The very first time I commented on SBM I spoke directly to you Sane for that very reason...it helps to have that direct link to someone and you wrote me back just a couple sentences, but it just helps, truly. Instant rapport. Man, I'm a sap.<br /><br />Race is still ultra sensitive that's all...SBM is the shiznit dot net.Scarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10733519420397400298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-27998141179704942502010-10-01T14:34:00.389-04:002010-10-01T14:34:00.389-04:00You still didn't address my issue, Mr. Sir. :)...You still didn't address my issue, Mr. Sir. :)<br /><br />Also, I'm a little hurt that my attempts at welcoming folks aren't helping them actually feel more welcome. *pouts*SaneN85https://www.blogger.com/profile/04147382300690713475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-1502215834915723332010-10-01T13:47:57.341-04:002010-10-01T13:47:57.341-04:00I, for one, appreciate the response and more so th...I, for one, appreciate the response and more so the bravery it takes to say some of the things you just said.<br /><br />Cause sho nuff people aren't commenting because they don't feel safe to do so. And that's one of the things I love most about SBM, the heated intelligent conversation in the comments and the (usually) safe environment in which to have differing opinions amongst peers.<br /><br />Guess this one hit a lil too close though. Nothing to do but keep the dialogue open I guess...thanks for the post and follow-up. <br /><br />I hope you have a wonderful birthday.Scarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10733519420397400298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016378587242424045.post-11153516809839558622010-10-01T13:31:33.988-04:002010-10-01T13:31:33.988-04:00Now this was a rant....
I understand that you wer...Now this was a rant....<br /><br />I understand that you were frustrated, but you know what...when you blog, you make yourself vulnerable. You put yourself out there for criticism and I know it may hurt sometimes.<br /><br />Nice explanation, but it probably would've been better had you just remain silent. It's your thoughts and you opinions and so be it. You don't HAVE to justify it. <br /><br />I read SBM all of the time and I just recently starting posting comments. In my short time I've learned that most people think that they are "smart", "educated" and/or "worldly", but their comments say something else....<br /><br />Brush it off<br /><br />I comment jokingly "Chocolate Goddess"<br />Enjoy the rest of your birthday!! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com