Women Have To Learn to Lower Their Standards

Have you noticed that white girl has only dated a successful Black
executive and Mayor of Atlanta?  See what I mean about standards. 

Brian Palmer: We're Black, single, professional men. We, gentlemen, are the cream of the crop.

Terry White: No, let me break it down for you, man.

[points to Jackson and Derrick]

Terry White: *We* are the cream of the crop. *You* are the black, sticky shit on the bottom of the barrel!

(Source: The Brothers)

Over the weekend a friend of mine says, “That’s cause white girls are easy.”  And I look at her and I say, you have no basis to say that.  First of all, that’s racist as hell.  Second of all, no offense (and you know something offensive is coming), but have you ever heard Black women talk about the men they date?  It’s not anything to bash Black women, I kind of feel bad, but it just seems like Black women sometimes have to adopt an “Anything I Can Get” mentality.  I went on to say that in the last few weeks, I’ve known Black women who have dated; ex-convicts, men with no jobs, or less than adequate jobs, men with multiple children with different women, head cases on head cases, and even on the bus last night, a woman says, “When I met him at McDonald’s I thought he was the type of man I could talk to.”  And it dawned on me, that I’ve never heard white women talk like this about the men they date.  I can tell you right now, I know some white women who dated ex-convicts, men with no jobs and even a headcase.  And yes, you guessed it, all those men were Black.  And judging from the fact that Black women are the least likely to date outside their race, that should tell you something.

Do I think Black women have lower standards than other races?  Let me be clear, I don’t think that is the case.  I think that it comes down to the fact that women have to realistically align their expectations all the time.  Does this mean that they get desperate?  That’s a harsh way of putting it, but it’s just a numbers game.  I have a friend who refused to date a man with a kid.  At 21, that was okay, she found several men to date, but no ring.  At 25, she was viewed as being closed minded, but that was okay, she still found a good amount of men to date, but no ring.  Then at 30, she is viewed as being delusional and she can rarely find quality men to date who want to pursue a meaningful relationship with her.  The main guy she’s seeing right now has two daughters.  Two.  There goes that plan of refusal; her plan is now chilling with Elvis.

She needs to write a book, actually i'm going blog on this.

I always think there are multiple paths to the same goals.  For some people they marry for love and companionship.  If we could all be so lucky…  Other people want to marry for family, or they just want to be married.  It’s almost like people who follow their passion in life, versus those people who make the right decisions in order to be successful in life.  Think about it this way, a kid applies to Harvard and doesn’t get in, does he reapply next year, or does he just accept the offer for admission from Hobart and move on with his life?  Well, you probably never thought about relationships and especially marriage like that.  I’m sure that as little girls all these women had an idea of what their Prince Charming would look like.  However, as they got older, that began to change.  They should have known it was inevitable because once she stopped thinking that he had to be a Prince, it was all downhill from there.  Although, I will say this, Kate Middleton told herself that she would marry a prince and she held out for long enough to actually find one.  But for the rest of us outside of fairy tale land, we need to get on with life and that means, realigning our expectations. 

I hate to admit it, but look at how
they turned out. Persia can still get
it. Twice on Sunday, in the choir loft during
10:45 service too!

When she was 18 or 21, her Prince Charming was tall, dark, handsome, well educated, a God-fearing man, with a great job in finance, who had no kids or existing criminal record.  There’s actually nothing wrong with that set of expectations, she’s not being too selfish or gaudy with her demands.  But then life happens…  If I had a $1 for every time a girl said, “Yes, I PREFER a man over six feet tall, but if he’s not then that’s fine,” I’d be rich as Richie Porter.  I really don’t even have a good idea what expectations or preferences are when it comes to Black women anymore.  It’s like they have this list of things they would like to have, but in reality they end up having to accept less all the time.  The expectations are realigned with reality.  At 30, her husband is average height, light, racially ambiguously awkwardly looking, went to trade school and he works in plumbing which means he has not been to church in over 12 years – she love him though…

Becky (the stereotypical name for all white women, even though most of the Becky’s I know are Black) turns her nose up when a man doesn’t meet her expectations.  Ain’t nothing like the look on a white girl and her family when they find out the man they’re dating is an ignorant Black fool who has been lying about his life.  “Oh my god, he used to sell DRUGS?!”  Black women on the other hand, have you seen this dating pool they have to deal with?  Shits ridiculous, b.  Keisha (the stereotypical name for 95% of all Black women, even though Keisha is a popular stripper name for white women) met a guy in McDonald’s the other day, he had just gotten out of jail, had no money to get on the train, but he had ambition in his eyes and looked like he was ready to turn things around.

Keisha is going out with that guy later this week, she thought, “Why the hell not?!”  He’s taking her on a real date, although they will split everything down the middle at Chipotle and Cold Stone.