|Look at Ye's face in this picture for five minutes.|
|He knew! He always knew!|
How did this relate to my friend? I told him, well there are times when men stay in situations way too long knowing that they won’t be with her in the long run. They will eventually let the relationship die its slow death and then get back on the scene and it will affect their “draft position.” To take it further, a man can be in a relationship with a woman at the age of 27, he stays with her until he’s 30 or 31 and then he’s now a 31 year old man in the club trying to bag shorties. And for a man that’s not all that bad, but to be perfectly honest at 31, you’ve lost a step to the younger 24 and 25 year old whippersnapper. Had that man made the decision to break up with his girl at 27, he would have a better chance, but at 31 he’s seen completely different.
|I know some guys who would have paid good money for|
her ass six years before he dumped her like trash.
I read this in GQ one time, “Once a gentleman decides he does not want to be with a woman any longer, he breaks up with her directly and never calls again.” Deep. That’s actually the absolute truth. Moreover, it’s not just for her and her feelings, but it’s for his livelihood. Every moment you waste in a failing relationship is time wasted that could be better spent looking for a better option. As men in failing relationships we start to create a list of “places we’d be open to a trade to,” but we stay in that relationship and those options keep growing. Think about it this way, my friend told me to invest in Gold when it was $690, but I may have valued that cash in my bank account more than I valued picking up the investment. Three years later, Gold is still trending up, but it costs $1,800 a share now. I can’t afford that share anymore, had I seized the opportunity earlier I would be doing okay for myself.
When he was in college he started dating this chick after he found out she had a bit of a past. Hey everyone has a freshman year and do some crazy things, but he said, “I’m just smashing, I’m not wifing her down.”
When he got out of school he was still dating the chick and now he’s showing up to events with her and people are saying on the side, “Yo remember when that chick was in the house doing…” but he said, “I’m just smashing, I’m not wifing her down.”
Couple years later, I said, “Let’s look at this situation, you are only sleeping with her, you are seen with her in public, she has her shit at your house, it’s obvious that she’s only sleeping with you and you get emotionally disturbed when she does something you don’t like. At what point will you admit that this is your girl?” He laughed, but he said, “I’m just smashing.” Two weeks later, “Maybe that’s my girl.”
1. She would lie to him about dudes in her past.
2. She would accuse him of sleeping with women that he’d been friends with forever and never slept with.
3. She demanded that he inconvenience himself countless times. She was completely inconsiderate of his life. Long story short, there’s a story around here about the time that she demanded he leave the club after he purchased a few bottles and come pick her up and take her home because she was drunk.
4. She said to him numerous times, “I don’t want kids, I don’t like what they do to a woman’s body.” And this fool wanted a big family!
All this was happening and he’s just staying in this relationship thinking that by some divine intervention it would work out. And you know what at a certain point, he knew it wouldn’t but that didn’t stop him from buying that ring.
When he said, “So I went ring shopping this weekend” we all looked at him and said, “Word?” As a friend, you can never say, “DUDE THAT’S A HORRIBLE IDEA!” It gets awkward once he gets defiant and still ends up marrying her anyway. So we did what anyone else would do, we waited until he got around to telling us why he was marrying her. This guy said this, “You know, I’ve been with her for so long that I figured, might as well just get married.” And we all looked around and said, “That shit ain’t gonna last.” (We didn’t say that aloud, we just said, “Word.”) And sure enough, right around the moment he decided that it was time to come clean, do you know what happened?
He was now a man, 29 years old, single and with $500,000 worth of debt because of he paid for a ring, house and down payments of a wedding. Now when a woman is looking at my friend, they’re thinking, “He’s a great guy, but that’s a lot of debt .” He f*cked up his draft position by staying with a chick he knew he didn’t want to be with too damn long.
|Get the hell out of there.|