In honor of International Women’s Day, I’ll put this controversial post up about interracial dating…
I find myself always surprised when I hear a group of Black guys talk about dating outside of their race. The things they say always make me cringe. I remember the first time I heard the word bunny and then the first time I heard the word snow bunnies, the first didn’t make me feel any type of way, but the second made me feel odd. And now to hear men talk about dating outside of their race they talk about different races of women like they are trophies or accomplishments. I heard a group of boys talking about dating “white chicks” yesterday and my mind started to wander. I could tell they were lying. How did I know they were lying? Because nobody who says “I love f*cking with the white chicks” gets anywhere with white women.
I’m going to touch on this really quickly and then I’m going to go back to my silence on the topic. I love women. I love all types of women, in no particular order, and I’ve been very consistent with that my entire life. Even before people even knew what interracial dating I was dating outside of my race. Why? Because I dated the women who went to my school! In Elementary school we didn’t know how big of deal Black, White, Latino, Asian, Indian, etc. was we just thought that Rena was freaking cute. And in middle school when I had my first real girlfriend it didn’t even really dawn on me that my girlfriend was Bolivian, never, not once. It wasn’t until someone was talking about interracial dating to me years later that I exclaimed, “Damn I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, shoot my first girlfriend was from Bolivia!” and then I thought about it, throughout my life I’ve never really stayed in the boundaries of race. I’ve dated women from every continent, casually and seriously. I’ve never seen them as trophies, I only realize I have through hindsight.
My next point is that if you only date in your race, you’re racist. If you meet a white man and someone tells you, “He only dates white women.” (You have to use white men to show someone what racism is, lol. Otherwise, they act like they can never see it, pathetic people.) You would say he’s racist. Well, the same for Black people too. And let me be clear, there is a big difference between a preference and ONLY dating within your race. So it really bothers me when women are like, I don’t like it when Black men are dating outside their race because only a Black woman can appreciate him. Not to son the ish out of you, but I can tell you didn’t do well on your SAT, because they teach you in prep that whenever an entry has the word “only” in it, it’s false.
I guess what I’m trying to say is don’t view women like that because it won’t help you in your travels. Focus on loving women and all women will love you. AND DON’T CALL PEOPLE NAMES! Calling women stereotypical names is no way to get closer to them.
Of course you’re wondering who am I to be giving out advice, that’s because my resume is unlisted.