Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Morning Mail - 10.27.10

While we drive she tellin' me 'bout problems with her man
Baby I fully understand
Let me help you with a plan
While he trickin' off, don't get no rich n[egro]
Give ME some head, that'll really piss him off
(Source: Kanye West - Breathe In, Breathe Out)

Uncomfortable situations with women.

I should have known where this was going, but then again, I shouldn’t have been having this conversation with her anyway. Like I can see that she’s emotional and she’s looking for answers. She’s also complimenting me on the fact that I “get it” as if getting it is some type of impossible trait. I wanted to tell her that, “the funny thing about this entire thing is that men get it too, they just act like they don’t.” I am always enamored by women who truly believe they are outsmarting men. Too many women are holding babies and diseases because some man said they loved you, and meanwhile they are yapping on the phone with their single girlfriends about how men are so stupid. Have to ask yourself, how your stupid ass ended up on the short end of the stick. But as I noticed that she was getting emotional and she kept complimenting me, I knew that sooner than later, like in the next FIVE minutes she was going to look at me like, “why aren’t we dating?” And the answer to that question is always a tough one for anyone to stomach. The reason why we’re not dating is probably because you are sharing with me why it didn’t work out with your man. (This is funny, because if you were telling why it wasn’t working out with your man, while you were with him, you have a better shot than after you’re with him, telling me why it didn’t work out.) Now the other reason is, you’re probably telling me how you were good to him and he was out there chasing every skirt he could. Here’s when I think to myself about the current “invisible condom” epidemic and realize that you’re letting dude smash raw dog because he’s your man and you “love” him, meanwhile he’s “chasing every skirt he could.” But I can’t be that real with you while you’re telling me your life story.

Maybe we should stop drinking.

Brooke: I just don't know how we got here. Our entire relationship, I have gone above and beyond for you, for us. I've cooked, I've picked your shit up off the floor, I've laid your clothes out for you like you're a four year old. I support you, I supported your work. If we ever had dinner or anything I did the plans, I take care of everything. And I just don't feel like you appreciate any of it. I don't feel you appreciate me. All I want is to know, is for you to show me that you care.
Gary: Why didn't you just say that to me"
Brooke: I tried. I've tried.
Gary: Never like that, you might have said some things that meant to imply that, but I'm not a mind reader...
Brooke: It wouldn't matter you are who you are. Just leave me alone ok? Right now, just shut my door.
Gary: Listen... Brooke: Alright Gary just please, just leave the room. Gary just... I don't want to be near you right now, please just shut the door, please.

(Source: The Break Up)

Realizations that men don’t give as much as women in relationships.

Me and my friend are like brother and sister, so we pretty much talk about everything. So I’m realizing that men don’t give as much as women in relationships. And I can sum it up like this, if a girl said to me, “I want to have a threesome with you and another guy.” I would break up with her. However, most women when asked about a threesome with their man will be like, “If that’s what he really wants, I’ll consider it.” Sheeeeeeeeeit, men don’t consider nothing they don’t want to do. Like this is nasty, but imagine if a woman felt like she gets tired of feeling like she’s not in control of sex and was like, “baby I want to eff you, I want to put on a strap-on and eff you, it would make me feel so good to have that power.” If your man goes for that, trust me, he ain’t only your man. I just find that this same scenario extends to so much in relationships. Now, myself I try to defy every myth, but I’m guilty of this myself. There’s just only but so much I’m willing to give on, since I’m already forced into giving. LOL, that’s the real talk right there, relationships are like taxes to men, but to women it’s called charitable giving. And I’ve never really thought of taxes is giving, since they really take it. Like, a man has to pay for the dates, and the gas in the car, and movie or play tickets. The woman she can if she would like to, it’s a choice that she can make. Like a man, has to put on a condom, but a woman, she can be on birth control if she wants to. You see where I’m going here?


Lola said...

But would it hurt for men to just be and show how appreciative they are towards us? I mean, taking out the trash, doing an oil change in the car, and picking up the dry cleaning is not being appreciative, that's part of what you have to do lol. Women think emotionally and men don't, I think that's where the being "appreciative" comes from. :)

MrsLilRaven said... birth control ain't the "bees knees" either, especially if your insurance only pays for 10%..try paying $120 every three months and having to fight your insurance every time to get them to pay you back...Man just hush and go to the store buy some condoms...jeesh! LOL

Streetz said...

Eff dese hoes man.... lol

Scarlett said...

"relationships are like taxes to men, but to women it’s called charitable giving"

Me gusta eso. I definitely give too easily. I wonder though...if you ever marry...if you'll feel the same. I hope not.

Anonymous said...

wait..a man has to put on a condom? I just said girls get the okey-doke and find themselves babied up. I bet we ain't talkin throat babies and I bet we ain't talkin about consistent condom wearing.

I do like the way you saw that "invisible condom" line. I think a woman will say it out load but be crushed to find out her truth was THE truth..and she may not protect herself to that end.

Lia ♥ said...

hahaha "Relationships are like taxes to men." That was the perfect simile to sum up every question that ever existed about men in their relationships. Very good! :)