Monday, November 15, 2010

Morning Mail – 11.15.10

[who will get the last brownie?]
Anna Scott: Wait, what about me?
Max: Sorry, you think *you* deserve the brownie?
Anna Scott: Well a shot at it at least huh?
William: Well, you'll have to fight me for it, this is a very good brownie.
Anna Scott: I've been on a diet every day since I was nineteen, which basically means I've been hungry for a decade. I've had a series of not nice boyfriends, one of whom hit me. Ah, and every time I get my heart broken, the newspapers splash it about as though it's entertainment. And it's taken two rather painful operations to get me looking like this.
Honey: Really?
Anna Scott: Really. And, one day not long from now, my looks will go, they will discover I can't act and I will become some sad middle-aged woman who looks a bit like someone who was famous for a while.
Max: [long pause] Nah, nice try gorgeous, but you don't fool anyone.
William: Pathetic effort to hog the brownie.
(Source: Notting Hill)

Love this movie for several reasons. Everyone loves a good love story. Have you ever been seeing someone and found out they had a significant other? That’s got to be the worse. I am wondering what’s worst, if you were to start dating and getting to know a person, then you find out they have a significant other. Or, if you notice them from afar and know them platonically and would like to try and date them, then you find out they a significant other. Have you ever met the perfect someone and then found out you couldn’t be together? Do you have unbelievably bad timing with a certain someone in your life and it leaves you thinking like what if? I’m from the school of thought that if it’s meant to be, it will be. Mind you, this is coming from a guy who deleted a girl from his life because he thought he had found the woman he was going to marry, and didn’t want that clouding his goals and plans in life.

Then we have those people in our life we know we shouldn’t be talking to. People who may have a significant other and we just ignore it and proceed anyway. I’ve talked to people I know I shouldn’t have and I’ve stayed away sometimes because I was afraid of hurting or being hurt by a person. I think that there is something to be said for those people who know they will hurt someone and they continue to deal with them anyway. Like there are truly Praying Mantis females out there who know that they have a tendency to date a man, sleep with him, enjoy it for a little bit, but then they’ll want to move on. They are just never content and they know it. And women have men like this in their life too. Keep it real, every woman has her kryptonite.


Lola said...

I like this post. It's different. It speaks loudly.

I hate it when I am seeing someone and then later by word of mouth I find out they have a SO, like really, you're pathetic for doing that!

I think it goes both ways, but some how I think it is a lot more hurtful to find out that your platonic interest has a SO. Why? Well because you think you "know" them, thus making this something that they 'should' have told you, when in reality, they didn't have to tell you anything.

I used to suffer of the "its not the right time" syndrome for a very long time. I hate it.

I do believe though, in the "if it's meant to be it will be". So, if I'm suppose to be with someone I met, or with that platonic individual, then it'll happen, if not, lets keep it moving shall we?

Nick@nite said...

This is my WHOLE life right now.. I met someone who knew he didn't want a relationship, yet courted me anyway. Doesn't have a significant other, but doesn't want one right now. Then looks all dumbstruck and bumfuzzled when feelings get caught..
Who's to blame? Me, for trying anyway. or him, for calling me, and wanting (wishing, praying) to see me knowing that staying away is what's best..
I watched Notting Hill over the weekend.. Yes, on tv, even though I own the movie.. (I'm devoted)

Funms-the rebirth said...

Every woman has her kryptonite........


SaneN85 said...

I may have to come back and post on this one when I'm not dealing with anger and heartache. My comment could get very long-winded.

Let me add how chexy it is that you admit to liking Notting Hill.

MelaninEnriched said...

I've definitely met the perfect someone and found out we couldn't be together. And it sucks!

I don't have many experiences of platonic friends and the "what-if" factor, although I did have a friend who I felt was the perfect guy for me, and I expressed it to him and he didn't feel the same. He just wasn't that into me, like that. Which brings me to my next thought.

I'm still not convinced on the "if it's meant to be" bit. I hear it all the time and although it sounds good, IMO, it's never really sat right with me. I am more of a person who believes that we have our own free will and you make your decisions for the good or bad. Sometimes it works out in your favor and sometimes it doesn't.
For example--if you let the love of your life get away because you never said anything and they never knew you felt that way about them, I think that's more decision (fear)-based, rather than not meant to be. Because perhaps if you had said something, things would be different. I actually know of a case of that happening and he's married to someone else and she's still single. She should have spoken up when he asked her. Anyway, I digress.

Sometimes, timing IS bad. But, that's life. I think "if it's meant to me" gives people a pass sometimes to not step up or pursue or just give up completely because they feel it should be easier. Lots of things in life aren't easy, especially relationships.

I'm just not fully convinced that of that phrase.

Anyway, good post though. Definitely something to think about.

Scarlett said...

"Lots of things in life aren't easy, especially relationships."

Amen, now where's the line between trying to hard and being complacent...therein lies the rub.