Until You Have A Daughter

I have no kids. I feel like I have to say that up front, because women love to judge a man with kids, even when they have kids their own self. However, I think that a lot of men live a certain lifestyle, they treat women a certain way, they slay and leave behind, they take two pulls and pass, they say, “she loves me, but that’s her problem,” and the list go on and on. And it wasn’t until I was sitting on a Metro train in DC and some teenage mother’s kid looked at me and said, “Daddy!”

#DEAD

But I don’t think many men deal with the repercussions of their actions until they don’t want another man to do it to their daughter. (Or son, you know, to each their own.) I sometimes find it easy to forget that this is somebody’s daughter or younger sister. I’m an only child, but I tell you I’ll go Mrs. Tiger Woods on a dude for doing my little cousins wrong. But to the men, have you considered that one day everything you did to some woman, someone will do to your daughter? To the women, the same, some woman will do everything you did to some man to your son.

That girl in the frat house, who was down for the trizzy, is the daughter of a preacher. It’s so weird to meet a woman’s father who is a preacher after you have been blowing her back out. When you shake his hand do you think about the fact that it’s like touching the pages of the King James Version of the Holy Bible? What did he do to deserve that? How you going to feel when you find out that your daughter is referred to by the NY Jets as T.G.I. Fridays? (Even bought her a pair of panties from H&M that say Fridays on them, and she thought it was cute.)

When you talk about my future offspring it makes it suddenly real. I used to sit back and tell my friends, my daughter is going to be a pimp because I’m going to teach her all the tricks and games that men try and run. And then it sits in with me, somebody is out there training their son the same thing. So excuse me for a minute of internal epiphany, but I think I’m trying to say, what if we start working on our procreative karma now?

So maybe I’m going to stop leading women on…
And maybe I’m going to stop telling her she’s the only one…
I’m not going to propose she let my boy hit…
I will not videotape her and sell it on the internet…
Or take pictures and send them to my friends…
I will not look for ways to not spend any money on her…
I will not disappear after she has sex with me…
I will not give her nothing that she can’t get rid of if she doesn’t want it…
I won’t make her call Maury on me…
Furthermore, I won’t let her do it all on her own…
I will protect her if another man steps out of line…
If I’m going to be with her, I will claim her…
I will not actively pursue another woman after claiming her…
I will not call her a bitch…
I will not make her cry…
And I definitely won’t ever lay my hands on her…

I know a lot of times people come to these blogs and web sites looking to get riled up, but sometimes you got to take step back and be introspective. Everybody trying to be a king, pimp, player, fake imitation of their favorite rapper, but maybe it’s cool if we just try to be good men, good people. Amen.